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Monday, October 10, 2011

The Kleptomaniac, the Narcissistic and the Dumb


I HAD three (ex) friends called me a kleptomaniac, narcissistic and dumb.


The Kleptomaniac

It was year 2009. It started when I asked a (ex) friend about the debt that she needed to pay. I was asking her patiently to pay the debt because my parents needed the money for purchasing items in our sari-sari store. After few minutes, I was shocked that she blocked me on Facebook in order not to get a chance of communicating with her. She was accusing me on Facebook that I was a kleptomaniac. I knew what it means and I knew for myself that I could not do such thing.

What I did to her?

Since she didn’t pay her debt in cold cash I told this my friends and other acquaintances about her not paying her debt. I knew I was giving her public humiliation and she truly deserved it.
She said that she would file a case against me and put it into court. My father said, we should put things first at the barangay. My mother advised them that they should file a case in our barangay. After few minutes, I received a subpoena from the barangay.

By the way, she lives a town apart from me. She went to the barangay hall which is few blocks away from our home. She didn’t have the chance to pay her debt straight to our house but she had the time to file a case against me at the barangay. How it ended? Well, she is really indeed a PATHOLOGICAL LIAR. Source: http://pathologicalliar.org/


The Narcissistic

It was year 2010. It started on a group created by an (ex) friend on Facebook. Another friend invited me to join the group. I even received a notification on my e-mail with a link on it that I had access with the group. I was really disappointed when I clicked the link, the group was private. It seemed someone deleted me. Well, only an administrator of the group can delete me. Who is (are) the administrator(s)? I could not pinpoint someone since there were a lot of them. I posted a status on Facebook about it without mentioning the name of the group. I just hated the idea of creating a group when I know for myself I belonged to the group because of its name.

It was like this, I belong to this batch because I graduated the same year with them, but the questions were, why delete me? Who deleted me? Am I not part of the batch? Does anyone dislike me not to be part of the group? Are they choosing certain people to be part of it? I was really discriminated that time and I could not help myself posting about it. I feel insulted. You know, it would be better if nobody invited me to join the group than being deleted.

Someone noticed my status about it. She was also one of the administrators but she had no idea that I was deleted. The creator of the group left a comment on my status but not in a calm way. I could say he was really angry at me.

Then he started to call me I was narcissistic. I didn’t get the point why he even said that. That was way too personal because it was irrelevant with my post. I was looking for the answer, why delete me? The questions were remained unanswered.

Just so you know he is not a straight guy because a real straight guy can’t say such thing like a girl.
Someone told me that maybe he was guilty about it because if he wasn’t the one who deleted me, why left a comment in an angry manner? Why saying stuff that was irrelevant? If you’re not guilty then you should not react that way.

I am not an envious person. I work hard for something I really like. Yes, I admit I am proud with my little achievements. I am very outspoken when I have done something nice for myself. When I have something to say I go direct to the point. I am not a great pretender. I am just being real. Last and foremost, I am not hiding something in the closet. Well, there is one thing we call privacy and it should remain private.
Source: http://www.winning-teams.com/narcissistic_traits.html

The Dumb

This is the latest, year 2011. Again it all started also in Facebook. I uploaded a photo which is a sample design of wedding invitation for my business. Take note: I created one design only at first because that was just a testing phase but in three colors with the shades of blue, green and red.

I tagged people on blue and green but not in red. I received compliments and comments for improvement. In green, somebody said that the message was unreadable so maybe if I could change its font color to a complementary color which is red or maybe black to make it more readable. I appreciate their suggestions but still I have to stick with the motif which is green. So the only solution was to adjust the color.

Then this (ex) friend of mine left a comment stating, “Too colorful and too stylist.” I was really laughing with her comment because first of all it is not colorful because I am only using one color with different shades. I say it’s monochromatic with different shades, tints and tones with a single hue.
Sources: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hue
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monochromatic_color

It’s not too stylist, we say it’s stylish. A stylist refers to the person who is doing the style like fashion stylist, hairstylist and the likes. I was just correcting her in the first place because her statement was a great contradiction of my design. The purpose of my design was to make it less colorful but of course, with style.
She never accepted my explanation and she insisted that my design was overflowing of colors. I was really pissed off because she didn’t get my explanation. I don’t know if she was doing some research before posting a comment on my photo, if she has checked a dictionary to know which is singular and plural or if she really knew the meaning of the word she was talking about. So I suggested she needs to do some research and check a dictionary.

Well, do you see how straightforward or direct to the point I was? I didn’t care if she was hurt or offended with the suggestion I told her. It was really true that she really needed it. She really needs to learn from her mistake because stating such was a big mistake in the first place. I think she was offended being an Engineer and her ego was hurt. She even talked about marketing as if I had no idea about it. As if she was trying to be an expert in the field of marketing.

I think she had no idea my current job online. I’ve been working in the field of marketing for two years already which is more on online marketing, internet marketing, social media marketing and article marketing. I am not even claiming to be an expert. What’s worse was that she stated this, “I am not a designer, I am just an Engineer but if we are going to talk about marketing, she is a failure.” (Di man ko designer, Engineer ra man ko pero kun kami duha mag hisgot bahin sa marketing, yabo jud na siya.) She even called me dumb because I was not a valedictorian or salutatorian in high school. She said I was being unprofessional and she would never stoop down to my level but funny, she was throwing trash talks on me through my opinionated blog.

The question is, who among the two of us was being dumb and being unprofessional?

Haven’t you noticed that all things have the same in common? It all started in Facebook. It also happened in three consecutive years.

The morals of the story are:
* Think before you click.
* Read first before leaving a comment.
* Do your research before stating something in the public.


Disclaimer: Images are not mine.
Sources: 
http://www.strategicpsychology.com.au/kleptomania/
http://incharacter.org/character-sketches/narcissism-on-the-rise/
http://www.funnyjunk.com/funny_pictures/1914642/Dumb+Blonde/

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Why Miss Philippines Got the 3rd Runner Position in Miss Universe 2011?


Congratulations to Miss Shamcey Supsup for being the 3rd Runner Up for this prestigious beauty pageant, Miss Universe 2011!

This is the question she received from Vivica Fox:

Would you change your religious beliefs to marry the person you love? Why and why not?
Miss Philippines' answer:

If I had to change my religious beliefs, I will not marry the person that I love because the first person that I love is God, who created me. And I have my faith, my principles, and this is what makes me who I am. And if that person loves me, he should love my God too.

Well, it's her answer and it's her own opinion.  There is no doubt that she loves God more than anyone else.  Miss Shamcey Supsup is a Born Again Christian.  We heard on her revelation that she is now into a romantic relationship and her boyfriend was a Catholic before, now a Born Again Christian just like her.

For me, there is a loophole with her answer. Let's focus with the statement,

And if that person loves me, he should love my God too.

In the Philippines, we have several religious groups who believe in Jesus Christ.  These are the Roman Catholic, Born Again Christian, Seventh Day Adventist, Latter Day Saint, Iglesia Ni Cristo and etc.  They even have the same Holy Bible from the Roman Catholic.  The problem is that people have different interpretations with the Holy Book.  These people believe in the same God but they have different religious practices.

There are other religions like Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism and they have different gods.  Well, I am not very familiar with other religion because I have no background study with the different religions of the world.

Some people even created their own religion and proclaimed themselves as god.

My impression of the statement is very SELFISH.  Why? It sounds too conditional.  It's like you are forcing someone to love someone else's god.

I asked this question through Facebook

Do you find it selfish if you tell your boyfriend/girlfriend, 'If you love me, then you should love my God.'?

A friend of mine answered this

Yes, it sounds selfish because you're telling your man to love God so that he will be accepted by you and your relatives.  In God's law, we should love Him above anything else.  He must be our top priority and not because it is the lady's preferences.
I agree with her answer because God's love is unconditional, no if(s) and but(s).  Miss Philippine's answer is her own opinion and she believes in it.  It's just that her answer is not worth the crown.

If I have to answer the question if someone will ask me the same, this would be my answer:

I don't want to change my religious beliefs just to marry the person I love.  Why? If he loves me then he should RESPECT my religious beliefs as what I have given respect for his religion.
Honestly, it is really hard to choose between LOVE and RELIGION.  But why I have to choose between these two when I can have RESPECT?

I should say that love has different meanings.  Love is everything.  You can share love to your family, friends, and lover and even to your religion.


  • If we have a relative who is practicing another religion, I will still love him or her because he or she is also a family.
  • I have several friends who are not Roman Catholic, I still love them because we are friends.
  • If I have a lover who is also practicing another religion, I will still love him because I already accepted him whoever he is.
Maybe we have different religious beliefs but we can still LOVE THE PEOPLE around us.  The important thing is WE HAVE RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER.




Friday, September 2, 2011

Rants and Opinions - Deserving and Giving RESPECT


Disclaimer: Originally posted on my Facebook note.

I love to write even though I am not the best writer.  I love to write to express myself.  I always love stressing my rants and opinions through my opinionated blog, Facebook comments (depends on the topic), Facebook status, and Facebook notes.

I love exchanging thoughts with other people even though we have different points of view.  Well, an opinion has no wrong or right answer; it is just how you stand of what you believe in.  

Opinions by Wikipedia:
In general, an opinion is a subjective belief, and is the result of emotion or interpretation of facts. An opinion may be supported by an argument, although people may draw opposing opinions from the same set of facts. Opinions rarely change without new arguments being presented. However, it can be reasoned that one opinion is better supported by the facts than another by analyzing the supporting arguments. [1] In casual use, the term opinion may be the result of a person's perspective, understanding, particular feelings, beliefs, and desires. It may refer to unsubstantiated information, in contrast to knowledge and fact-based beliefs. 

An Argument that leads to PERSONAL ATTACK
I've encountered an argument with a former friend.  It all started with a photo she commented here on Facebook.  On my photo, it was clearly stated on the description that I've used SHADES OF RED or MONOCHROMATIC RED for my design.  Suddenly, she posted a comment on my photo that it was TOO COLORFUL.  Her comment was very contrasting with the description of the photo.

Of course, I let her knew the difference between COLORFUL and MONOCHROMATIC because they are OBVIOUSLY NOT SYNONYMOUS WITH EACH OTHER.  For a proof, merriam-webster.com dictionary is to the rescue. 

As a WANNABE DESIGNER, I feel insulted with her comment because the purpose of my design is to make it LESS COLORFUL.  Of course, there is a way to make a beautiful design even though you are just using ONE COLOR.  Anyway, of all people who saw that photo, she's the only who said the word COLORFUL for a monochromatic design. LOL

Someone said she was stating her OPINION but I had to disagree if that was her OPINION.  First of all, the word she was using was VERY INAPPROPRIATE with the design I was trying to express.

It was an artwork of mine though not as good as professional designers. If you want to be a CRITIC, please make sure to EXAMINE CLOSELY of the design.  Before posting some comments we also have to make sure to SCRUTINIZE OUR WORDS if we are really TELLING FACTS or using APPROPRIATE WORDS in order not to send wrong information of the person you’re criticizing to.  If you're giving a SUGGESTION, MAKE SURE IT'S HELPFUL.

After what happened with the dictionary, it was really shocking that she started to attack me personally.  First, she insulted my design and after that she insulted my whole being for being dumb in class. From being not a good designer, now I'm dumb? LOL

How can I respect her OPINION when it was not appropriate? She did not even respect what I was trying to express with my so-called artwork.

Issue about RH Bill

RH Bill is still a very hot issue.  I am proud to admit that I am PRO-RH Bill not because I am living an immoral life.  It is because I want to be educated and to know information about taking care of my sexual health.  As a woman at the legal age of 22, I am now entitled to get married with a man that I love and soon to have babies.  My man is no prince charming and not even rich.  Of course, it would be a wonderful feeling to have your own offspring.  What I am afraid of is money that having lots of children we cannot sustain their primary needs.  In my personal opinion, in the future I don't want my partner to wear a condom and I don't want to wear IUD when I'm older.

I respect the Church's stand being against RH Bill.  As what I have understood with their cries, using artificial contraceptives are a big NO for them.  That is HAVE SEX when you're MARRIED with the person you love, with the opposite sex, whom you can PRO-CREATE with.  Natural family planning was already approved by them.  The best thing to avoid sex is ABSTINENCE.  ABSTINENCE is applicable to anyone especially to those people who are still in the stage of boyfriend-girlfriend relationship - conserving one's purity.

 I don't have respect for some people who are ANTI-RH BILL but they are REALLY enjoying SEX while in a relationship.  Obviously, they are not yet married.  The reason they are ANTI-RH BILL is because they don't like to wear condoms. Worse, some of them are LIVING TOGETHER UNDER THE SAME ROOF and still THEY DON'T HAVE BABIES.  Yes, they don't use condoms but they are practicing NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING when obviously they are not yet a family.  The REAL HYPOCRISY is that they are READING THE HOLY BIBLE, a book that talks about the GOOD WORDS of GOD.

PRO-RH bill supporters are a mix of married and unmarried, of who have small and big families, and of conservative and liberated people.

ANTI-RH bill supporters are a mix of married and unmarried, of who have big families and don't have families, and of REAL CONSERVATIVE and HYPOCRITE people.  

I only have respect for these people: PRO RH-BILL conservative and liberated and ANTI-RH BILL real conservative.

I DISDAIN PEOPLE WHO ARE ANTI-RH BILL HYPOCRITE!!! AN INSULT IS BEST FOR THEM!